Yesterday as I left for work, Calder asked me to stay and cuddle like normal but I told him I really needed to go right then because I had a doctor's appointment that day. Of course as soon as Calder heard the D word, he wanted to go to. Why the hell not? It's still a pants-on visit and it's not like he and Bruce and anything planned for the day so I gave Bruce the appointment info and went to work. Anyone who's been paying attention around here knows that Calder loves going to the doctor and talking about body parts. I thought this would be awesome for him but for some reason, as soon as the doctor came in the room he completely clammed up and clung to Bruce. Perhaps he was scared because it was me on the table and not him.
The doctor was amazing with Calder. After she gave me and Bruce the regular spiel about pee tests and weight and everything being normal and right on track she asked us if we had any questions. After we said no, she addressed Calder directly and asked him if HE had any questions. He was still being weirdly shy so he managed to not say "I want to see the baby now, take it out!" and "What IS the baby standing on?", which are his usual queries. The doctor then invited Calder over to the table to not only hear her take the baby's heartbeat, but to actually help her! That got him going. Calder at first thought he was going to get to play with a real stethoscope and when he got handed the fetal heartbeat thinger he went bug eyed. I think he was a little disappointed that he didn't get to smear my stomach with the jelly like the doctor did though. After the doctor helped him find the right spot, Calder stood on a stool at the end of the exam table, pressed his head to my leg and just quietly listened to his little sister's heartbeat. My word, it was adorable. Bruce even looked a little misty but that could also be the fact that it was also his first time hearing his second child's heart.
Bruce and Calder then spent a fun day bopping around the Mag Mile while I went back to work. When I got home I asked Calder if he had a good time and what his favorite things about the day were. Number one was of course the robot he got at the Lego store for being a good boy at the doctor's office. I mean, he did only try to open the biological hazardous materials bin just the once. Second was the heart beat thing. Or maybe it was getting popcorn. I choose to believe it was the heartbeat one. Since I am trying to prep Calder for my inevitable hospital stay, I warned him that I would be going to the doctor a lot more often now and he wouldn't always be able to go with me. Then I told him that when the baby was ready to be born I would have to go to the hospital for a few days without him but he'd still be able to visit after while. When he asked if he could come with me the whole time, I said it might be gross and scary. Calder said, "That's ok, I hold your hand so you not scared anymore." I mean, just, wow, goodness, kid. It's dusty in here. I'll admit I have my concerns but I think Calder just may end up being a fantastic big brother.